Recommended for Beginners! 3 BDSM Plays

"I want to spice up my relationship" or "I'm interested in a bit of exciting play, but I don't know where to start." For those of you, we recommend BDSM!

When you hear "BDSM," it's easy to have an image of an "extreme and hard world" or "enduring pain" as often seen in adult videos. However, that perception is a major misunderstanding.

Authentic BDSM is a delicate and intimate form of adult communication built upon "clear consent from all participants," "deep trust," and "detailed safety rules." It is not about harming one's partner, but rather a form of physical affection where, with mutual consent, you can enjoy roles and sensations that differ from your everyday life.

In this article, we will introduce "3 recommended plays" that beginners can enjoy safely and comfortably, along with items carefully selected by Liebe Seele.

The "3 Golden Rules" of BDSM

To ensure a safe and enjoyable time, please make sure you and your partner confirm the following three points before starting BDSM.

1. Always Establish a "Safeword"

During play, excitement or immersion can make it difficult to tell if a casual "stop" is a joke or serious. Therefore, you must establish a safeword (signal) that means "if this word is spoken, stop everything immediately, no matter what."

• Words not used in normal play (e.g., "red," "tomato," "potato") are suitable.

• Assuming a situation where your mouth is covered or it's hard to speak, also agree on gesture-based signals, such as "tapping your partner twice with your finger" or "dropping a specific item on the floor."

2. Advance Communication, Consent, and Agreement

Consent and agreement are the golden rules of BDSM. Before starting, talk to your partner about wanting to try BDSM play and make sure you have their explicit consent and agreement.

Examples that do not constitute consent:

• When the partner has consumed drugs or alcohol and cannot make sound judgments.

• Minors.

• When under threat or in a state of regular subjugation.

  You must be on equal footing with your partner before play. Consent and agreement are a form of contract. Be thorough.

3. Do Not Try Anything Extreme on Your First Time

It is extremely dangerous to attempt extreme play for your first time. Absolutely do not do it. During the first session, the Dom (dominant side) may not know how much strength to use or where the limits are, which can lead to excessive intensity. Also, the sub (submissive side) may feel fearful as it is their first time. At the beginning, keep it to adding just one item to your usual play. After finishing, don't forget "aftercare," where you hold each other tightly to provide comfort and reassurance.

3 Recommended BDSM Plays for Beginners & Recommended Items

① Blindfold Play: Heightening Sensitivity by Blocking Sight

The easiest play for beginners to adopt with the lowest psychological barrier is "blindfold play."

It is said that humans receive about 80% of their information through sight. Simply by blocking that, the temperature of fingertips touching your skin, the breath whispered in your ear, and the sound of clothes rubbing become amplified many times over. The pleasant tension and anticipation of "Where will they touch next?" will instantly boost pleasure.

• Recommended Product: Wine Red Blindfold

  A genuine leather blindfold from the Wine Red series. It uses high-quality cowhide on the surface and soft sheepskin on the back, ensuring a gentle, close fit against the eyes. By blocking vision, senses are heightened and the depth of the play increases. With its rose gold hardware and beautiful wine red color, this is an elegant design that also looks great for cosplay and photography. Delivered with anonymous shipping and free postage.
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② Restraint Play: Awakening the "M" within Restrictions

This play involves enjoying an extraordinary situation where you "cannot move." It is a play where you can enjoy the feeling of liberation that comes from completely entrusting yourself to your partner, as well as the feeling of shame.

At first, limit restraints to things where the partner still has some freedom, such as "tying your wrists together in front of you" or "wearing a collar." Also, restraining too tightly can hinder blood flow or be dangerous if you cannot remove it in an emergency, so apply restraints to a degree where your partner can remove them on their own.

• Recommended Product: Rose Gold 3-Piece Set (Collar, Handcuffs, 2 Double Snap Hooks)

  A perfect starter set characterized by elegant rose gold hardware and a sophisticated texture.

  It includes a collar, handcuffs, and double snap hooks to connect them. Since there aren't too many parts, beginners won't get confused about how to use it. You can enjoy various restraint patterns with this single set, such as "securing wrists together in front" or "limiting posture by connecting the collar and wrists." The inner side that touches the skin is designed to be gentle, making it difficult to feel pain even when worn for long periods.
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③ Spanking: The Pleasure of Hitting, The Pleasure of Being Hit

This play involves gently tapping the buttocks or thighs. The purpose is not to cause pain, but to stimulate the tightening of the vagina and erogenous zones. Start in a position like doggy style where the partner's entire body is in view. Spanking without consent constitutes assault. Be sure to obtain proper consent and use a strength that does not harm your partner.

Spanking is originally done with the palm, but using a paddle is ideal for getting the atmosphere right because it makes a good sound without requiring much force.

• Recommended Product: Wine Red Paddle

  This is an item we want beginners who think "being hit looks painful and scary" to pick up.

   

  A pleasant impact sound echoes through the room the moment you swing it down, but because the striking surface is flexible and cushioned, the pain on the skin is surprisingly mild. You can enjoy the moderate stimulation without feeling any fear.
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If you're unsure, try this! BDSM Starter Set

Are you wondering "Which items should I get first?" or feeling anxious about buying expensive BDSM gear for the first time? For those of you with such worries, Liebe Seele's Night Set series is highly recommended!

Believe it or not...
You can cover almost all the necessary BDSM items for under 5,000 yen!

• Recommended Set: Night "Stay Up Late" 11-Piece Set

  Includes a blindfold, mouth gag, collar, handcuffs, ankle cuffs, hogtie, nipple clips, rose whip, mini vibrator, rope, and anal plug for only 4,980 yen!!

  You can purchase BDSM items cheaper than buying them one by one! You can enjoy your nights without ever getting bored, stepping up at your own pace—"just a blindfold tonight," or "next time, let's combine light restraints with a paddle."
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Conclusion

BDSM is the "ultimate physical affection" that can only be established through mutual trust.

If you follow the rules and enjoy it while remembering to be considerate of your partner, it will bring deep bonds and excitement that you cannot experience in normal sex or everyday conversation.

Start with a small step, like blocking your vision with an eye mask or gently tying your wrists together. Let's open a new door for just the two of you. After playing, don't forget to provide proper aftercare.
For details on how to do aftercare, click here↓
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